Do-Overs and High-Fives… the Spring is Springing Edition

by Liz on March 15, 2010

You know it’s spring in Colorado when you wake up to a powdered-sugar dusting of snow in the morning and by noon the sun is out and you’re ready to shed a layer!

I love the change of seasons, and especially spring. (Though in June I’ll be saying the same thing about summer, and in September, I’m in love with fall….)

But there is something so invigorating about spring. It’s a very inviting time to start thinking about new projects. If you’re inspired to start something new, I’ve got a teleclass you might be interested in! You can read all about it here.

Here’s my round up from last week:

Do-Overs

Postponing the ‘no’

I do this all the time, and it doesn’t really help. There was an invite in my email box for weeks. It was for something I kinda wanted to do, but it conflicted with some other things. I didn’t want to go badly enough to rearrange the other things, but I didn’t want to completely give up the idea either. And so the emails kept accumulating. Each time I’d read, but not delete. (BTW, this happens with all kinds of email. I have coupon offers from stores I’m not planning to buy from, but I keep them ‘just in case.’)
In this case, the reminders were a constant drag on my attention. Reminding me of this cool thing that was happening, that I wasn’t going to be able to go to. Unless I rearranged a whole bunch of stuff. Which I wasn’t planning to do. Or was I? Can you see the constant state of angst not saying no caused? Ugghhh!
Finally, I didn’t have to decide anymore, because the date came and went. And I stuck to my original plans.
But I see this pattern turning up over and over again. I don’t like saying no. And so even when I know it’s the right decision, I put it off. I really try not to do it when I know it’s going to cause problems for other people. (So are you coming or not?!?) But even when I’m the only one really affected, it takes a toll.
Now I have a bunch of emails that need to be deleted, when I could simply have sent back a ‘not coming’ and been done with it!

Calendar Overwhelm

I’m in a bit of a tizzy right now with my calendar. I’ve gotten sloppy about having my calendar next to me as I read email, school newsletters, talk to my husband, etc. and now I’m feeling lost in time…. I’m so ungrounded that I spaced out on the fact that this week is parent-teacher conferences. Which means half days. I had all kinds of things scheduled with no awareness of the fact that I was going to be on the mommy clock starting at 12:30 for the next three days… ooops!

Cue me scrambling for playdates, rescheduling phone calls, etc. And feeling like an idiot.

Now on my to-do list is a serious heart-to-heart with my calendar. Let’s just hope I don’t find any unpleasant surprises.

Impatient Mommy

This needs a blog post all its own, but let’s just say I wish I didn’t get quite so bent out of shape when my son gets distracted from the task at hand. It’s the classic situation of seeing in him something that (sometimes) drives me crazy about myself. Most of the time I love his offbeat takes on life, but when I’m trying to get through violin practice, I’m not really interested in how many different ways he can make noise with his instrument! Uggghhh… I wasn’t a very nice mommy last night. And I hope I’m not scarring him for life or squashing his creative genius. (as if!) But these are the things I worry about as I lie in bed after the fact…. For better or worse, this one I get constant practice with…
It reminds me of that ancient proverb: The lesson will be repeated until the student has mastered it.
Is this the good news or the bad news?

High-Fives

Teleclass is Happening!

I’m really looking forward to this one. It’s going to be a blast. On the off chance you haven’t heard about it, you can check it out here!

Deadline week and I’m not dead!

This is a biggie. Deadline week usually ends up in the ‘do-overs.’ Wishing that just once I’d have my act together enough that I wasn’t up until the wee small hours writing. Guess what? This week I wasn’t! This is huge. I’m not sure what I attribute this to. It might be having a smaller number of articles- or not having any stories with lots of different people to track down. Whatever the reason, I’m thrilled. I’d like to do it this way again next month for sure.

New Blog Schedule

Along the same lines, it was really great to get to Friday and NOT feel guilty or stressed because I had a ‘do-overs’ post to write. Shifting my writing load to the front of the week really works so much better for me. So yay for figuring that out!

Coming around to hockey

Sunday was AJ’s last hockey game of the season, and I wouldn’t have guessed it, but I’m coming around to the notion of being a hockey mom. He’s been playing goalie, which worried me even more when I first heard him talk about it. Seriously! Anything that demands that much protective gear can’t be good! Then my beloved husband explained to me that goalie injuries were actually pretty rare- partly because of all the gear. And because they’re protected from the rough and tumble of play on the ice.
Yesterday, his team was pretty outmatched- but he had a great time because of all the shots on goal. He had some really nice saves (and plenty of goals allowed). We were worried that he was going to be bummed about his team losing and all the goals that sneaked in. But no- he was thrilled with the saves.

This is what I love about kids.

Moving Forward:  Stuff I’m looking forward to this week

Rocking the teleclass.  It’s going to be a blast.

Book 2 test.  AJ is finishing up Suzuki book 2 this week.  A celebratory dinner will be had when he passes his test!

Live Workshop… details coming soon, but I’m having fun planning a workshop on planning!

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How about you?  Got any do-overs or high-fives from last week?  Anything you want to share as we move forward into Monday?

Let us know in the comments!

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Emily-Sarah March 16, 2010 at 6:24 pm

“Postponing the no.” That resonated with me. That resembles me. :-) Sometimes I really truly think there’s a chance for “yes.” So I sort of sit in an unspoken “maybe” purgatory …

But the majority of times I need to swiftly say “thanks, and no.” (There’s a conflict or something far too hard to orchestrate to get to a “yes.” And the effort or planning or whatever just doesn’t move me.) An immediate no would clear the task out of my in-box, off my to-do list, out of my mental file of undone things.

:-)

Liz March 17, 2010 at 3:30 pm

“Purgatory” is exactly the right word for this! It’s a constant practice, this saying ‘no’!

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