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by Liz on August 17, 2010

Getting To School Without Losing Your Cool

I know how it is when you’re a mom with kids who need to be somewhere in the morning.  Maybe you have to be somewhere too.  Your husband or partner might help out, but basically it’s up to you to get everyone where they need to be.

And no matter how hard you try, it seems like you and/or your kids are always running late, forgetting something, and having a hard time getting it together in the mornings.  You’re on a first name basis with the lady that hands out tardy passes and you make more trips than you’d like to bring kids things that they’ve forgotten.

But most of all, you wish that mornings could happen without being stressed, scattered and screaming.

You’re pretty sure that not every family goes through the trauma and drama that yours does in the mornings and you suspect that if you could only Get Organized, this wouldn’t have to happen.

So maybe you bought a book or two, got some cute bins and baskets, and implemented a new system of rules and schedules and such.   That probably lasted about two weeks.  Everyone forgot all about the new system, the bins are now filled with who-knows-what and those books are buried under the pile by your bed.

But now school is starting again and you’re ready.  You’re really going to do it right this year!  You are going to Be Organized this year!

Oh honey….  I wish there was a nicer way to say this

Maybe it’s time to face facts.

If you’ve been trying this hard for this long, it’s probably not going to happen.

What I’m trying to say is that you, my dear, are probably never going to Get Organized.

Before you click that little box and kick me off your computer screen, let me tell you why this might be the best news you’ve ever heard.

Are you kidding me?

Nope.  I’m dead serious.

I’d be willing to bet that you are one of my very favorite kind of person: a right-brained learner, a visual-spatial thinker, a creative, artistic soul with a great sense of humor.

If I walked into your house, I would feel right at home with the ‘lived in’ look.  You could show me some of your ‘works in progress’ – those projects you’ve gotten started on but haven’t quite gotten around to finishing.

If we made a coffee date, we’d smile and wave as we both pulled into the parking lot five or ten minutes late.  I’d laugh when you told me you couldn’t find your keys until you looked under the sweater you were wearing yesterday.  We’d totally lose track of time until I suddenly remembered I had to leave because I needed to drop off the library books that were due yesterday.  You would totally understand.

So where’s the good news, you’re asking?

The good news is that you’re not alone.

But there’s even better news.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

Nothing.  Not a single thing.

Your brain (like mine!) might be wired a little differently from many of the left-brained folks who seem to be running things, and that makes things hard sometimes.  But the bottom line is that there’s nothing wrong with you, and a whole lot that’s right with you.  You’re a divergent thinker who can come up with great ideas like nobody’s business.  You can see the big picture, and connect the dots faster than just about anyone you know.

You are totally amazing and completely OK just exactly the way you are.  So you can stop trying to change yourself (or your kids, if they happen to be right-brainers as well).  And if that isn’t good news, I don’t know what is.

But something’s gotta give…

Mornings can be one of the hardest times of day for a right-brained mom (or a mom with right brained kids).  You have to get everyone up, dressed, fed and off to school.

On time.

With all their stuff:  the backpack, the lunchbox, the homework, the permission slip, the instrument, the gym clothes, etc. etc.

Let’s face it, no one likes to start the day on a bad note, but it can happen all too often.  When breakfast is a battleground, your kid can’t find their shoes and for crying out loud, where is that form that has to be returned to school TODAY!…it’s hard to keep your cool.

So there you are, yelling at your kids (or trying very hard not to yell), “I don’t know where your shoes are.  Where did you put them?”

Everybody has days like this once in a while.

But for a family with some right-brained tendencies, things can be extra hard.

Instead of trying (yet again!) to ‘get organized,’ what if you could work with your strengths and essential nature (and those of your family) instead of against them?

What if you could set up systems and structures that supported you and your family to get out the door easily and without all the angst every day?

Maybe, just maybe, you could get your kids to school without getting angry at them, or feeling like a failure as a mother.

If you’re struggling more than you’d like with getting your gang ready for school and out the door in the morning, I’ve put together a jam-packed class and workbook combination that contains the best stuff I’ve learned (and am still learning!) about how to get through the morning with some semblance of peace and sanity.

Getting to School Without Losing Your Cool

Why should you listen to me?

Well, let’s just say I’ve been there, done that.   When my son started preschool, I was determined to ‘get it right.’  I didn’t want my kid to be the last one on the playground after school because I was running late (again!), or to be the mom that spaced out when it was her day to bring snacks.

In my desperate attempt to ‘be organized,’ I felt like a drill sergeant barking orders from the time he woke up until the time I dropped him off.

Time to wake up.  Let’s get dressed.   Eat your breakfast.  Get your shoes on.  NOW!  Let’s go!

It wasn’t any fun for him and it wasn’t any fun for me either.

Since then, I’ve been on the lookout for ways to make what I call the ‘morning rush hour’ as smooth and painless as possible for everybody.

It’s a constant process, and I can’t say I’ve got it all figured out, partly because what works one year doesn’t necessarily work the next.  The basic principles stay the same while the details of implementation change according to the needs of our family.

I’m not an organizer.

Let’s be very clear about that.  I’m a mom who’s read a lot of books about organizing and done a lot of research on how different brains and learning styles work.  The philosopher in me needs to know the theory behind why things work the way they do.  And the mom in me really needs things that work.  Like you, I’ve tried a bunch of stuff.  At this point I have a pretty good idea of what kinds of things work for right brained folks, what kind of things don’t and why.

Solving the right problem

Something else we right-brained folks are especially good at is problem-solving.  The trick is to focus on the right problem.

I’ll give you a little hint:  The problem isn’t you.  The problem is that your way of thinking, organizing, and operating in the world runs counter to the linear left-brained world of schedules and deadlines and so forth.

This is not another one-size-fits-all system where I tell you what to do.

That never works with us right-brained folks.

Instead, I’m going to share with you some simple tools and effective techniques to get your kids off to school on time, with all their stuff and without all the drama.

Best of all, none of these suggestions require you to ‘get organized’ or change who you fundamentally are.

In the workbook, you’ll get a set of worksheets that will help you think through your family’s specific issues.  Once you have identified the ‘sticky spots,’ we’ll discuss possible solutions to smooth the way.

I’ll be combining basic principles and concepts with concrete examples and specific tools and strategies to help you implement the basic concepts in your own particular situation.

Of course there will be plenty of time for questions, and the workbook will have many more resources along with the worksheets that you can use over and over as your family evolves.

By the time we’re done, I hope you’ll see that there’s nothing wrong with you.

You are a good mom.  A competent mom.  A mom who could use some help creating systems that work for you and your family just as you are.

Local or Long distance?

I’m offering this class in two formats because I really like to see the lovely faces of people I work with whenever possible.  And I understand that not everyone can make it to Colorado for a class.  The teleclass is great if you can’t make it to either one at the scheduled time, but want to have a recording.

Both will be packed with the same great content, the chance for you to ask questions and share your experiences with other creative moms plus a workbook full of exercises and resources you can come back to again and again.

Class + Coaching

If you think that one class just isn’t going to to it for you, I’m offering a limited number of discounted coaching sessions to accompany the teleclass.   You’ll get a one hour strategy session focused on your family’s specific needs and style.  Building on the worksheets you’ll get in the workbook, we can cut to the chase and begin developing a plan to make mornings in your family smoother right away.  In the one-on-one session, I can help you come up with solutions that are specific to the ages and personalities of your children, and the details of your family’s morning routines.

This is a great deal because you’re going to get the class plus an hour of coaching for less than the usual cost of the coaching alone.

I’m only doing a few of these so I don’t make myself crazy this time of year.  So if personalized coaching sounds like it might be just the thing for you, jump on it!  I’d hate for you to miss out!

But, but, but….

I know… you want to know if this will really do it for you.  So here are some of the biggest ‘buts’ you might be thinking about.

But — You don’t know me. No matter how hard I try, I can never ‘get organized.’

I meant what I said about this not being about you getting organized.  The end result of some of the tools and ideas I’m going to be offering might give someone else the impression that you’ve ‘gotten organized’ but it’s really about arranging your environment and tweaking your systems to make it easier for you (and your family) to do the things that work.

But — I don’t have a lot of money to spend on ‘stuff.’

The suggestions I have in mind can be implemented with very little additional expense.  You’ve already tried the bins and baskets approach.   Chances are, you already have everything you need and we’re going to tap into your creative genius to figure out how to make it work even better for you.

But — I seriously doubt I can get my family to cooperate.

We will definitely cover this one.  If they think you’re going to try to change them, you’ll get resistance for sure.  So that’s not what we’re going to do.  Some of the ideas and suggestions you can implement on your own.  Where you do need the cooperation of your kids or spouse, we’ll talk about how to get them on board (and be happy they did!)

But – I don’t have time for all this.

This is a biggie, I know.  But think about it this way:  How much time do you spend arguing with your kids in the morning?  How much time do you spend looking for stuff?  How much time do you spend going back for forgotten essentials?  And most of all, how much time do you spend beating yourself up for not ‘having it all together’?  Wouldn’t you rather spend a little time up front preventing these situations from arising?

But — I have a question you didn’t answer.

So sorry!  Please shoot me an email at liz [at] dreamgardencoaching [dot] com.    I’ll be happy to answer any other question you might have about the class, my qualifications for teaching it, or anything else you need to know to decide whether this class is right for you.

Bonuses?  Well sure, why not?

I know it’s only a teleclass, but still, who doesn’t love a good bonus?  If you’re on my newsletter list, you’ve been getting the ‘back to school baby steps’ emails.  When you sign up for either the teleclass or workshop, you’ll get 3 bonus baby steps delivered right to your inbox.

Where?  When?  How much?

Live Workshop:

Tuesday, September 14 (NOTE NEW DATE!)

Panera Bread

425 Ken Pratt Blvd, Longmont, CO 80501

Breakfast 8:30-9:00

Workshop 9:00-11:00

You get:

Breakfast

Workshop

Workbook

Bonus Baby Steps

You Pay:

Basic: $35

Premium Coaching Package:  $125

Teleclass: (NO LONGER AVAILABLE)

Wednesday, September 8 (NOTE NEW DATE!)

10-11am Pacific/1-2pm Eastern

Wherever you are!

You Get:

Class

Workbook

Bonus Baby Steps

Recording

You Pay:

Basic: $27

Premium Coaching Package:   $120

Do you really need this?

Everybody has hard mornings every now and then.  But if your days start badly more often than you would like, it’s taking a toll on your family.

Your kids go off to school in a funk, which is not exactly the ideal state of mind for learning or positive social interactions and you spend the morning feeling like a lousy mother.

You could buy another book, get some more bins and baskets, and still struggle getting your kids and yourself out the door on a positive not.

Or, you can join me for this class and let’s work together to fix your systems, not you!

Whether you attend the live class or the teleclass, you’ll leave with a batch of new tools and techniques that you can start using immediately to save time, save your sanity and save your relationships!

Click here to be taken to our secure order page.

P.S.  Screaming, stressed and scattered is no way to start the day!  It’s not good for you and it’s not good for your family.  Join me in this class and get a heaping handful of tools and strategies you can use immediately (even if you’re sure you could never ‘get organized’)  to get to school without losing your cool!

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Cara September 13, 2010 at 11:58 am

OMG this describes me perfectly. I laughed out loud reading this. I am so sad I won’t be able to make the class in Longmont this week. It sounds like just what I need!

Liz September 13, 2010 at 10:10 pm

@Cara- would love to have you there! Maybe next time!

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